July 8, 2012
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Losing Touch.
I feel like I’m losing touch with a friend back home, and don’t really know what to do about it. I try to talk with her whenever I get a chance, but the vast majority of my messages are unanswered. She never tries to talk with me, other than when she needs advice on something, and normally that doesn’t bother me. But lately, I just feel like I’m the only one putting in ANY sort of effort! I feel like I just need to let it go and not try to contact her (because I feel like I’m probably bugging the shit out of her…but then I think, if I am, why doesn’t she just tell me). Ugh…I hate this part of growing older/living abroad/interpersonal relationships. I’m a big fan of just telling it like it is…if someone is bothering me, I tell them. I expect people to respect me enough to do the same and not just ignore me.
Ugh…just had to vent. I don’t know what to do, but I think I’m just going to stop trying to get in touch and let her come to me if she wants. I’m just sad, because I really valued her friendship. Sigh.
Hope all is well with everyone!
XOXOXO,
K.
Comments (4)
I have the same issue with a friend but we live in the same town! We had plans to lay out and get dinner yesterday and she never returned my call. All day and night, she posted pictures of her and a bunch of friends at the lake. Didn’t even have the courtesy of telling me she made other plans. I’m giving up, it isnt any fun being ignored!
I too usually am upfront and honest with people. What I would do is send her an email and just lay it out and ask why she doesn’t reply and if maybe you have done something to upset her.
Ugh, keeping up with friendships at home in the states is hard for me too right now! I don’t have any advice, except that if you’ve built a strong friendship and been super close, I wouldn’t give up. I’d probably say, Hey, please tell me if I’m bugging you. I really value our friendship and I want to hear back from you… etc. Either way, I’m sorry you feel sad!
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I wish I had words of comfort for you. Hugs !