August 13, 2012
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The Kid Post…
Just a head’s up…I’ll probably be posting a few different posts today. I wanted to get these out there before I totally forgot about them, so it’s easier to just do separate posts on each topic, and post them all today before I turn lazy. Feel free to read or skip…
This post is obviously about kids (well…”obviously” if you read the title). Shamrock asked me about where we were with kids, so I thought I’d touch on that a bit. I know I mentioned awhile ago that we were going to start trying for a baby in the near future. And, we were. And then, we weren’t. Life just sort of got in the way.
Basically, for awhile there, we were both pretty unhappy about a lot of things. Work stress was majorly piling up, and Jamie was just really confused as to where he wanted to go after this. We weren’t sure if we were going to stay in Europe or move home after this assignment, and that was one of the stipulations that I put on us having to have decided before we started trying. I did not want this hanging over our heads while I was pregnant. So…the potential job in Germany came up, a potential job in the UK came up (both of these would have been jobs for both of us), and then there was always plenty of positions in the US that we could apply for (I would have had to work a little harder to get a job in the US, since I’m more established in Europe, but it wouldn’t have been a problem). So, lots of opportunities, and still no idea what we wanted…especially on Jamie’s part.
And then…my dad. That phone call was probably the worst one I’ve received yet (God help me when one of my parents’ passes). After that, the decision on where to go seemed almost trivial. We pretty much decided immediately that we’d move home after this assignment, settle back in Indiana, and spend as much time with our families as we could while we still had the time to spend.
So then, of course, that took care of one of my requirements, but created another! Did I want to get pregnant here, go through part of my pregnancy, and then deal with an overseas move and relocation while pregnant? Did I really want to deal with all that stress while however-many-weeks pregnant and hormonal? Yeah…absolutely not. So…baby took a back seat. Again.
And while it seems like having a baby is always going back on the back burner, and many of you are probably thinking, “oh, just have one! There’s NEVER a good time to have children” (because I haven’t heard that a million times before), we’re both completely at east with our decision. I won’t lie…it sucks sometimes because all my friends have having children and I’m not, but I recognize that, while no time is perfect, there are times that are better than others. And frankly, the last thing I want to do is be halfway through a pregnancy, and sitting on an 8-hour flight back to the US where we don’t have a house, cars, furniture, etc.
So yeah…we’re going to wait until we get home and settled, and then we’ll try. Plus…that will give me some time to be settled into a job (if I decide to work), and get health care/doctors/birthing centers/etc. sorted and ready to go. Things were just too stressful here with our jobs and lives to even consider bringing a baby into the mix. I know that once we’re home and into a routine, life will settle down tremendously and it’ll be much better for us as a family.
There you have it! The baby post, and where we are.
XOXOXO,
K.
Comments (2)
Sounds great!! Timing is everything, but the best advice I got was not to live life like you’re going to move in a couple years. Obviously out situations are different, but we weren’t updating our home bc we could be moving. I know a baby is WAY different, but even if you think you are settled and planning on everything, something will come up. And you know what, you will take it in stride and make the best of it…pregnant or not. I got pregnant in Georgia thinking we had a lot of time there and then we moved when I was 8 months pregnant. It was hard but not any harder than anything else I’ve gone through. You find a way
. But if you can foresee that upheaval, I don’t blame u for waiting. It’s one thing to know about stress and change and a whole other to have it come up and having to do it. Hope that makes sense. You will know when it’s time. It may not be the perfect time but you will at least be more settled
oh I totally agree with you; now I’ve never had a kid but I would imagine that would be very stressful and difficult to have to move anywhere during a pregnancy, especially overseas. and than there is the matter of having to switch doctors in the middle? hell there is certainly the wrong time to be pregnant and that would be it. i think you are making a wise choice